• Jean Burman

I went down to my favourite café the other morning and for the second day in a row, the door was closed with no sign of anyone inside. It should have been open. I was worried that something might have happened.

I live in a very small beachside town which is, arguably, over-serviced by small cafes. But Ebbs is different. It is organic in both food and nature. The food is all home made. The coffee is local and single origin. The place has heart and soul.

I should have gone there more often.

As I drove away, memories came flooding back of all the wonderful breakfasts and coffees with cake Emily and I enjoyed there last year when she was home for awhile. I hadn’t realised how much that little place had come to signify everything about that time. It’s not so much the coffee as the memories.

Why oh why am I so sentimental? I cling to the things I love. I never want them to change!

It reminds me that nothing stays the same. That change is the one constant. And I should know. I have experienced more change in the past few years than one small person should have to know in a lifetime. But I am here. I am okay. I am learning to negotiate change with more grace than I would have once thought possible. It’s something we all need to know how to do, because our lives are filled to the brim with endings and beginnings.

You need endings so that beginnings can happen. Beginnings don’t happen for no reason and nor do endings. Each has a precise place in the process of living and growing more into our selves. Every loss makes a space in our hearts for something new to fill. Every change leaves room for more and potentially better. I remind myself that this is the way of things. Life has always been like this. It’s how progress happens.  

Eureka! The café is open again. The owner had a family emergency but all is well. My coffee cup runneth over ;) 

Lesson learned: Don’t take anything for granted! 

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  • Jean Burman

Comments on this post ( 4 )

  • Apr 29, 2018

    Well said Jean as only you& I know – change happens. Sometimes massive & it really disrupts our lives & sends us in other directions pursuing the unthought of! Sometimes, the change is small but still affects us in some way.
    What has happened to the coffee shop? Is it closed for good?

    — Lynne

  • Apr 29, 2018

    It’s still there Lynne. As mentioned the owner had a family emergency and had to close for a couple of days. A reprieve of sorts as the business is for sale so change is coming. It’s all a metaphor of course. As you say change can be big or small … and endings come unexpectedly before new beginnings usher their way in. That’s how life happens 😊 Thanks for commenting. So lovely to hear from you!

    — Jean

  • Apr 29, 2018

    How true this is! And how fortunate are we who can adapt to change. Most can’t. I love every bit of change life offers as it keeps us young xxx

    — Julie Broadley

  • Apr 30, 2018

    At least it keeps us on our toes! Reinvention is the new norm haha. So great to hear from you Julie xx

    — Jean

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